It is becoming increasingly common for people to use their smartphones or other devices to record interactions, especially in contentious situations such as those involving ex-partners. While some may argue that recording interactions is a way to protect themselves or gather evidence, the person being recorded can understandably feel violated, stressed, or harassed.
It is becoming increasingly common for people to use their smartphones or other devices to record interactions, especially in contentious situations such as those involving ex-partners. While some may argue that recording interactions is a way to protect themselves or gather evidence, the person being recorded can understandably feel violated, stressed, or harassed.
If you find yourself in a situation where your ex-partner is persistently recording you, this article sets out what you need to know about your rights and options.
Know your rights
When you are aware that your ex is likely to record your meetings or conversations, it is crucial to prepare yourself mentally and legally. Surprisingly, the law does not outright prohibit private individuals from recording conversations, but there are important considerations regarding privacy, consent, and the purpose of the recordings.
Try to find out why your ex is recording you. Is it for personal protection? Are they attempting to gather evidence for a legal dispute? For example, in a dispute over child arrangements. Having this understanding can help you better navigate the situation.
If you suspect you will be recorded by your ex, be mindful of your words and actions. It is often best to stay calm and composed, because any outbursts or emotional reactions could be taken out of context. Whilst modifying your own behaviour is far from ideal, it may ultimately prevent the recordings, since there is nothing to record.
You may feel it is appropriate to record the interactions yourself as a form of self-protection. However, it is wise to consult with a solicitor before you begin recording, as this could complicate matters, especially if the recordings are later used in legal proceedings.
How to Conduct Yourself
If you know your ex is recording the interaction, the way you handle the situation can have a significant impact on any future proceedings or claims.
- If you know you’re being recorded, try to keep your responses neutral and avoid escalating the situation. Anything said in anger could be misinterpreted or used against you later.
- If you’re uncomfortable with being recorded, you should voice this calmly. For example, you could say, “I know that you’re recording, but I do not consent to being recorded without my permission.” Even though this may not stop someone from continuing, it establishes your opposition to the act.
- You can ask your ex to stop recording, especially in a private setting, like your home. You could say something along the lines of, “I’m asking you not to record this conversation, and if you continue, I’ll have to consider my legal options.”
Can I ask my ex not to record me?
As stated above, you can ask your ex not to record your interactions, and it is advisable to do so. While there’s no specific law that prevents someone from recording you, the law is clear on the importance of privacy, especially under the Data Protection Act 2018 and General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR).
In a private setting (such as in your home or in confidential situations), there’s a greater expectation of privacy, and you can ask someone to stop recording. In public spaces, the expectation of privacy is lower, but that doesn’t mean someone can record you with no consequences.
If your ex refuses your request, you should consider the following:
- If the recordings serve no clear purpose or are meant to provoke or harass, this could work in your favour should you take legal action.
- Document instances when you’ve asked your ex to stop recording and they’ve refused. This could be valuable if you need to take court action later.

Is persistent recording harassment?
Persistent recording by an ex-partner can constitute harassment. The Protection from Harassment Act 1997 makes it illegal for someone to engage in a course of conduct that they know (or ought to know) causes alarm or distress. If your ex is persistently recording you in a way that is oppressive or distressing, you may have grounds to claim harassment.
To establish harassment, it must be shown that there has been a pattern of behaviour rather than a one-off incident. Recording each meeting or conversation, especially after you’ve expressed discomfort or asked them to stop, might meet this threshold.
- Maintain a detailed log of every instance where your ex has recorded you against your will, especially after you’ve asked them to stop. This record can support a claim of harassment.
- If you believe the recordings are part of a larger campaign of harassment, you can report the behaviour to the police. They may issue a warning or take further action under the Protection from Harassment Act.
Can I take legal action?
There are several avenues you can explore if your ex is persistently recording you without your consent.
As mentioned above, the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 allows you to take civil action if the recording amounts to harassment. If successful, you could be awarded damages for any distress caused.
You can also apply for an injunction to prevent your ex from continuing to record you. An injunction is a legal order that can prohibit certain behaviour, such as recording, and violating the terms of an injunction can lead to serious consequences for your ex, including fines or imprisonment.
Can I insist the recordings are destroyed?
If the recordings were made without your consent, you can request that they be destroyed.
Under the Data Protection Act 2018, you have the right to ask for personal data, including recordings, to be erased if there is no lawful reason for keeping them. This is often referred to as the “right to be forgotten.” However, this applies mainly to organisations rather than private individuals. For personal disputes, it may be more effective to ask a solicitor to send a formal letter asking for them to be destroyed, especially if you believe the recordings breach your privacy.
Consulting a solicitor to explore your legal options is recommended, especially if the recordings are being used in a way that infringes on your privacy or causes emotional harm.
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